The 6th Love Language

There's this thing I'm sure all the sentimental girlies—or even guys (if there are any)—out there know and also have at home.

It's what they call "The Memory Box".

It contains the presents, handwritten letters, cards, pictures, souvenirs, trinkets, tickets, and such that hold special memories and remembrance of different people that have ever been part of my life.

And each item I have in "The Memory Box"—if not all, then most—came from a place of sincere, heartfelt love.

It contains all the top-tier, talented, brilliant, incredible, amazing, show-stopping, spectacular, and totally unique items I've ever received from quality people—those who have set high standards when it comes to gifts.

I have always been a sentimental gift-giver myself so when I get one from someone, I would know if it's coming from a place of sincerity or mere self-serving reasons.

Whenever I have the opportunity, I go the extra mile when it comes to gift-giving for my people.

From handwritten letters or cards to handmade or customized crafts, from their favorite things to something personal I’ve made just for them, even to learning a new skill for their sake—anything that reminds me of them, conveys a heartfelt message, or makes an impact—you name it

for you, happy to serve!

That’s probably why certain people have called me a love bomber in the past.

Alright, my beloved, chotto matte right there.

Let me break it down for those of you who love tossing around psychological jargon from TikTok without even researching its actual meaning (coming from me).

Love bombing is when someone excessively showers another with affection and gifts with the sole intention of manipulating and controlling them, which is then followed by emotional abuse.

Meanwhile, giving talented, brilliant, incredible, amazing, show-stopping, spectacular, totally unique items with the sole intent of expressing gratitude and love through one’s love language is entirely different, Toti Marie.

To those who had only misused that term, don't worry about it,

But to those who were simply projecting their own traits onto me, then, my beloved,

The latter is simply a trait of sentimental and romantic people.

So, just because someone's sentimental and romantic doesn't automatically mean they're a love bomber, Bobbie,

Sometimes, they’re simply just like the other sentimental, romantic, talented, brilliant, incredible, amazing, show stopping, spectacular, never the same, totally unique people I’ve met in my life.

And because I relate to them, I know how to appreciate every single gift they’ve ever given me in any shape or form—both grand and small.

And every single person I received them from—despite being forgetful sometimes—I remember.

The same way I remember how every single act of service ever done for me has been a huge help:

• All the times someone cooked me food, and suddenly, my body felt energized after a long day. Or all those times food was saved in the oven particularly for me, and suddenly, my heavy heart felt lighter.

• All the times someone helped me run an errand they knew I’d struggle to do alone due to the language barrier—so they’d go to the city hall, hospital, dentist, and such with me—and suddenly, I felt at home in a foreign country.

The same way I remember how each affectionate physical touch has made me feel:

• All the hugs and kisses kids give me each time I ask them, and suddenly, my child self feels safe, coming out and freely enjoying being around such innocent, pure, walking angels on earth.

• All the arms that ever held me when my heart was heavy, as well as the arms I had ever melted into when my heart was happy, and suddenly, my young adult self felt comforted and cherished.

The same way I remember how every kind word ever spoken or written to me left an impact on my life:

• All the unexpected, genuine compliments ever said to me, and suddenly, I’m sure my teenage self would have felt fulfilled and proud of me.

• All the advice I didn’t realize I needed to hear—not only changing how I was feeling at those times but also shaping how I now view life—and suddenly, I’m sure my future self would feel grateful she got to hear those words.

The same way I remember how every single quality time ever spent with me reminded me of different things:

• All the times I was hanging out with the same old faces, and suddenly, it reminded me of the kids or teenagers we once were—back when we had all just met and realized how different we were back then. Yet, the connection remained the same, only growing deeper over time.

• All the times I was hanging out with new faces in a new life chapter, and suddenly, it reminded me of my 24-year-old self seeing this on Facebook: "There are people you haven't met yet... important characters in your story that you are yet to connect with." And then, I realized how true that actually is.

And circling back—the same way I remember how every gift in The Memory Box transports me to an entirely different timeline and dimension:

• Each item ever given to me, whether found unexpectedly or intentionally, suddenly takes me back to a certain point in the past—a specific moment in a place with a certain person or people, feeling exactly what I felt at that time.

• Each word in a letter ever written for me, once read again, suddenly transports me to a specific spot in my heart—the special place I’ve reserved just for them.

All these five love languages—acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, and gifts—I used to think they were meant to express love and serve our loved ones only in the present moment, in the here and now.

I hadn’t realized that beyond the here and now, each of these love languages actually serves our loved ones across different ages and times—not just their present selves, but also their past and future selves.

Every kind and uplifting word heals wounds or fulfills aspirations one had as a child, a teenager, a young adult, or at any stage of life in the past.

Every caring act of service and affectionate touch eases the exhaustion or anxiety that comes from work, school, or life in general in the present.

And every single quality time spent together—an intangible keepsake—along with every gifted item—a tangible remembrance—will be the reason one looks back with a heart both heavy and full, with teary yet warm eyes in the future.

When all of these come together, they form The 6th Love Language—The Love Time Capsule.

It's a beautiful combination of all five love languages, showing how important they are not just for our loved ones in the present, but throughout all stages of their lives—including their past and future selves.

And as the famous saying goes—"You reap what you sow."

If love has been constantly and sincerely sown , it will keep coming full circle in different shapes and forms, across time and space—always returning a thousandfold.

And maybe, the love you're sowing for your loved in the present is the love they once needed but never received—until now, from you.

Or perhaps, it can also be that the love you're sowing in the present, though not being reaped yet, will surely be in the future.

Kase basta legit yung love, kahit minsan mukhang dehado, eh hindi naman kahit kelan talo.

Hindi man maani agad agad, pero in time, sure na babalik at babalik sayo.

And whatever kind of love that is—expressed through any love language there is—as long as it's 'legit', it will always be the most top-tier kind of gift among all kinds of gifts, Seve.

So, to anyone who gives that gift in any shape and form, through different time and space, without any love bombing, but solely through a sincere, heartfelt love language—you are all:

And just as The Memory Box serves as the tangible container of not only gifts but all the other love languages, The Love Time Capsule serves as the intangible memory box of each of the five love languages combined for—

all the love,

your 'love bomber' sentimental & romantic girlie—Jah 😙✌🏻